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“Love Can Tame Your Temper” part 6 of a 7 week series
Dr. Scott Koenigsaecker
I Corinthians 3:1-7 ~ October 24, 2010
INTRODUCTION
A. Anger is the most confusing emotion we have as human beings.
B. Being angry is not always a sin.
C. Anger is not the opposite of love, apathy is.
D. Anger, if not managed, will not only become a sin but will be very destructive.
I. RESOLVE TO MANAGE YOUR ANGER.
A. "A fool gives full vent to their anger, but the wise keep themselves under control." Proverbs 29:11
B. We need to pinpoint the source of our anger.
· Anger can be caused or triggered through four main channels:
1. Frustration—the thwarting of what we want
2. Hurt---physical or emotional pain
3. Conditioned response---learned early in life
4. Instinctive protection (fear)--motivating force and courage needed to overcome an obstacle and defend ourselves.
· These channels of emotion produce:
Ø Passive or hidden aggression (Repression or Scapegoating)
Ø Active or direct attack (Ventilation)
C. Remember the cost.
"A hot temper gets one into all kinds of trouble." Proverbs 29:22
"The fool who provokes their family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left." Proverbs 11:29
D. The best suggestion is….
"A stupid person gives free rein to their anger; the wise waits and lets it grow cool." Proverbs 29:11
II. RELEASE YOUR ANGER APPROPRIATELY.
A. "If you become angry, don't let your anger lead you into sin." Ephesians 4:26
B. Don't suppress it, don't repress it, don't express it.
C. Change the way you think, change the way you communicate.
"A gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh one stirs it up."
Proverbs 15:1
· Change the "script" of your angry conversations.
Ø Rehearse the way you want to respond (Anticipate your triggers)
Ø Respond without lashing out (Interrupt your physical response)
D. Learn to rely on God for help.
"Lord, help me control my tongue; help me be careful about what I say." Psalm 141:3 (NCV)
"The fruit of the Spirit is…patience…self-control." Galatians 5:22
CONCLUSION